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“Do not give advice on marriage or having kids” says Dr. A. Velumani
A social media exchange between Zoho CEO Sridhar Vembu and Thyrocare founder Dr. A. Velumani has sparked a wide discussion on marriage, family planning and personal freedom.
While Vembu encouraged young people to marry and have children early, Velumani argued that such decisions belong to individuals alone.
Dr. Velumani’s View on Why People Should Stop Giving Marriage Advice
In his post, Dr. A. Velumani clearly stated that advice on marriage or having children is unnecessary in today’s world.
He wrote, “Internet is full of Gyan. Everyone thinks I can only be right,” pointing out that people deal with their own set of “pressures and pleasures.”
Velumani explained that modern life involves many choices. People decide when to marry, whether to marry, how to balance work with family plans, whether to freeze eggs, whom to choose as a partner, and how to handle divorce or remarriage.
He said, “Do not give advises on marriage or having kids in todays world.”
He stressed that everyone must do what feels right for their life. “Just focus on you. Do what makes sense to you. You are born to live your life. Live it as you like as long as you do not hurt others,” he wrote.
His message echoed with many young readers who want freedom from social pressure.
Sridhar Vembu’s Says to Get Married in Early 20s
Sridhar Vembu shared a very different opinion. He encouraged young entrepreneurs to settle down early. “I advise young entrepreneurs I meet, both men and women, to marry and have kids in their 20s and not keep postponing it,” he said.
He also mentioned that he sees this as a duty to society and to past generations. Vembu stated that people have a “demographic duty to society and their own ancestors.” He admitted his view may seem old-fashioned but added that such ideas “will resonate again.”